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When you're not connecting with your spouse the way you know you can and have in the past, it can cause you to feel alone, resentful, and sometimes sad. To help you see the improvement you want I have limited my practice to focusing on just couples. The couples I see are couples like you and in situations similar to yours. When getting help for your marriage it's best, in my opinion, to go with someone who works with couples full time. We have two locations, one in Tulsa and one in OKC, and serve a number of surrounding areas.
If you go to a cardiologist for your heart and an expert at pediatric radiology for your high risk prenatal ultrasounds why would you trust anyone but the expert who focuses solely on couple's issues for your marriage? The average couple waits 6 years to get help for their marriage. Why wait any longer? Why not get the right help for your marriage the first time? Please feel free to view our FAQ and Resources section for additional information.
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Anger Gives Power Away Sometimes it helps to realize that problem anger does not gain us the power, control, respect, or the love we want. It only makes us more powerless by placing our peace in the hands of someone or something else. It drives people away. In short, we put ourselves in the powerless victim role. We give the power away when we get angry...Read More
So lets define “problem anger”. It becomes a problem when: It intends to hurt, punish, disparage, or avenge, rather than to build, protect, or defend. Contains malice, hatred, or hostile aggression (we will talk about the companions to anger). Is excessive (disproportionate to the offense) or out os control. Is too frequent, too intense, or lasts too long. Is badly timed. Keeps you constantly on edge, irritable, cynical, cold, critical, or sarcastic. Is chronic. Harms yourself, others, or relationships; leads you to do foolish things - like break furniture, or punch someone or something. Is marked by cruel behavior, including verbal, physical, or emotional abuse, cruelty to animals. Does not feel good; destroys peace; causes you significant distress.Read More
The task of the first year of marriage is to establish yourselves as a married couple - to become comfortable with your identity as a married pair and to adapt to dealing with others as married partners. That challenge is often complicated, however, by relatives who, well meaning though they may be, want to make certain that they still play a central role in your lives...Read More
The first year of marriage is huge for any couple for many reasons; even if that couple has lived together for some time. Marriage is different than dating or living together.
Research has shown that marriage is a developmental process that involves change, adjustment, and growth...Read More